Seperate the Boys From the Men

Hello world sorry I have been out of touch my life  has been on the go and rather hectic balancing college and work. But hey here I am once again thanks again for all the blog love. I am avid reader of Essence Magazine lately I have been reading the magazine online and an article caught my attention. The article is advice written by Paul Carrick Brunson.




The Topic...... How To Tell If You're Dating A Boy or A Man

Does He Have Goals?

“The man is aiming at a goal; the boy is drifting aimlessly.” — Author Unknown

How Responsible Is He?

Men make and keep commitment, boys don’t.

What Does He Call You?

Boys want a “wifey”. Men want a wife.

Can He Communicate?

A boy tells you about his day. A man will ask you about yours, and listen.

Does He Accomplish or Destroy?

Boys consume. Men produce.

Can You Trust Him?

You can put your trust in a man. Your trust is always lost with a boy.

Does He Know Who He Is?

Boys dress, talk, and act like everyone else. Men emulate no one.

Does He Want to Stimulate His Mind?

Men are never afraid to ask questions. Boys think they have it all figured out.

What Are His Beliefs?

Boys believe nothing is greater than themselves. Men believe in a higher power.

Is He Serious About His Future?

Boys chase girls and women. Men chase family.

Does He Pick Up the Phone?

Boys send text messages. Men call.

What Is His Purpose?

Boys exist in stagnation. Men embrace change.

Does He Have Baggage?

Boys have liabilities. Men possess assets.

How Does He Handle the First Date?

Boys split the check. Men pay.

How He Handles Adversity?

Boys become selfish. Men are selfless.

 What do you think? Do you agree or disagree? (FYI this advice was geared to audience of Essence Magazine primarily Black women and the dynamics of Black relationships) I thought it was interesting because a guy pointed this out.


Toni's Thoughts: I actually found this information to helpful for me personally and I think they should  do a topic on seperating a girl from a woman. Oh yes and the photos feature guys that  I find very sexy.